Grounded, Present, and a Little Less Anxious

Saying goodbye is challenging. It can be painful and carries with it a sense of loss that can lead one to wonder if feeling whole again is possible. Some goodbyes are harder than others. When I left Germany four years ago, saying goodbye felt different than I wanted it to because of covid restrictions. Saying goodbye to places simply wasn’t possible in the same way as it had been. Restaurants were closed and crossing borders was complicated. Letting go was hard because it seemed like closure wasn’t possible, at least not in the way I wanted it. In my community at BFA, a lot of emphasis was placed on having a final coffee or going on one last walk with a friend in order to prevent simply disappearing or not saying things that needed to be said. I encouraged students and staff to take advantage of these opportunities, and I stand by those admonitions. However, when I think about the people and places I left behind, what comes to mind is not that final goodbye. Some of those moments ...